Summer brings a familiar rhythm in the corporate world; networking receptions, client dinners, company picnics, rooftop mixers. For Personal and Executive Assistants, these events are often part of the job, and sometimes, ones you’ve coordinated yourself. And while they’re marketed as opportunities to relax and “connect,” they almost always revolve around one thing: alcohol.
If you’re someone who chooses not to drink, whether due to health, recovery, anxiety, or simply personal preference, these social norms can be quietly exhausting. You’re managing schedules, preparing the logistics, and often expected to “be present” as both a professional and a colleague. But doing all of that without a drink in hand? That still surprises some people.
You Don’t Owe Anyone an Explanation
One of the most empowering truths for non-drinkers is this: you don’t have to explain your choice to anyone. And yet, at corporate events, the questions still come:
“Not drinking tonight?”
“Just one?”
“Are you sure?”
Whether your reasons are private or simply not up for discussion, a firm yet polite “No thanks, I’m good” is more than enough. You are not required to make anyone else more comfortable with your choice. And if your role is one where discretion and self-awareness are already expected of you, which it often is as a PA or EA, this boundary is just another form of professionalism.
Optics Matter, But So Does Authenticity.
In many ways, alcohol has become a shorthand for bonding in the workplace. It’s viewed as a fast track to camaraderie. But choosing not to drink doesn’t mean opting out of connection.
As a high-functioning support professional, you’re already building relationships through presence, reliability, and attention to detail, not through shared cocktails. Being alert and present is often your competitive edge. You remember names, observe body language, step in quietly when things go sideways. None of that requires a glass in your hand.
When You’re the One Behind the Event.
Many assistants are not just attending these functions, they’re running them. This gives you unique influence. Consider integrating thoughtful, inclusive elements into your planning:
- A dedicated non-alcoholic drink menu with complexity and presentation
- Branded hydration stations with citrus, herbs, and sparkling waters
- Glassware and styling for mocktails that matches the tone of alcoholic options
You can help normalise sober participation without making it feel “othered.” It’s not about making alcohol taboo, it’s about giving everyone a place at the table.
A Thought on Gifts: Inclusion Is in the Details.
A bottle of wine as a thank-you or year-end gesture might be traditional, but it doesn’t work for everyone. If you’re responsible for ordering or recommending corporate gifts, consider suggesting premium, non-alcoholic alternatives:
- Seedlip or Ghia non-alcoholic spirits
- Loose-leaf teas or craft coffee
- Scented candles, curated notebooks, or small-batch treats
It’s not about avoiding alcohol entirely. It’s about being intentional and making everyone feel considered.
The Culture Is Evolving, Slowly.
You’re not imagining it: the assumption that everyone drinks is still pervasive in many workplaces. But it is changing. From sober-curious lifestyles to a rise in non-alcoholic products and events, more people are seeking clarity and connection without relying on alcohol.
Still, change often starts on the ground level. If you notice recurring gaps, like no alcohol-free options at team events, or gifts that exclude sober colleagues, raise the conversation. Share ideas. Lead with solutions. And if you’re in a position to influence policy or culture, even in small ways, that’s powerful.
A Reminder: Your Value Isn’t Tied to the Drink in Your Hand.
There’s often an unspoken idea that to be “fun” or approachable, you need to drink. That showing up with a sparkling water instead of a spritz makes you somehow less social, less involved. But the truth is, staying sober doesn’t distance you from people, it distinguishes you.
Choosing not to drink is not about opting out of joy, personality, or presence. It’s about showing up with clarity, integrity, and consistency, the same qualities that make assistants indispensable.
So as summer ramps up and the invitations roll in, remember: you’re not just holding boundaries. You’re holding the standard.